Monday, June 22, 2015

Rambling on.........



I had a great time with my parents.  I stayed five nights and part of the day Sunday with them. I went to church with them and was asked to sing a special for the congregation.  I love to sing and worship the Lord and was happy I was asked too. My daddy has been recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's, and has serious bouts of confusion.  He is also dwelling very much on his childhood and early adult life. He repeats his stories over and over and I listen intently every time as if it was the first time I've heard them. My mama cries as she sees the changes in him. He is also very moody and gets frustrated very easily.  He gets upset with mama for the least things, but always comes back to her later and says he is sorry and that it won't happen again. But it does :(  My parents love me staying with them, and I love being there for them, but its complicated as well. There may come a time when I'll have to stay with them permanently. Today though, I'm back at home in my little shabby mobile cottage.  Surrounded by my things.....my stuff! I want to own things, but I never want things to own me. I have a brother that has so many things that the stuff has pretty much taken over his home. He has pathways throughout his house to get to nessasary places. No room for company to sit and visit. He is very sick at this point in his life, doesn't go anywhere other than the doctors office and hospital. I hate this for him, but it is what he chooses.  Of course, he isn't physically up to coming and going much, but I hate that he doesn't go live with loved ones and leave all the stuff behind for what short time he has left here. I started my weeding process years ago when I saw my mother in law go from having a household full of things, then having to give up the majority of those things and going to live with a daughter, then to a nursing home.  Her things went into storage and she never got to see them again, although she spoke of them from time to time.  When she died , most all her family were all surrounding her. She was being cared for by Hospice at her daughters home.  All her children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren were there with her the last couple days of her life. None of her things, or atleast not much of her things were near her, but her loved ones were. When I came back to my own home I began to feel differently about all my stuff. It wasn't until a later event that I began giving up so much stuff. Pick up truck loads of stuff. I've also brought things back into my home over the past few years as well. So believe you me....there is still more stuff than I need. I still seek a simple life, less stuff can mean more time for more important things, less stress over worrying about your stuff, if by chance you must make a change or a move , less stuff to contend with.  I'll share a more detailed post on my weeding process another day, and may even do a video to share here with you all. I know I'm rambling here, but sometimes rambling on is a good thing! And maybe, just maybe something I've rambled about has helped you in some way and thus I've not wasted our time  ;)  I so appreciate all of you for reading my posts. Your comments are more helpful to me than you'll ever know ♡ May your week be blessed my dear friends,  Shelley

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11 comments:

  1. Wonderful post! I've been going through the same process of letting go of stuff. It's funny but after something is gone, even if it was something you loved, you rarely think about it again. Enjoy your week!

    Jane

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  2. This is when virtue enters in, when someone has Alzheimer's. It must be so hurtful to your mom, as she has to be heroic in her suffering with how your dad will be treating her. Yet when they meet again in heaven, all will be well and they will have a higher place for this suffering.

    I've seen my neighbor die (she was 91) and her children were left with cleaning out her years of material goods. I am determined that I will give mine away enough so my children will have it easy !
    I think "baby steps" are a good idea for de-cluttering. It seems impossible at first to let go of something, but then it gets easier and easier. It can almost go over-board with some things you might need!
    :) Andrea

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    1. Thank you Andrea. Yes, within those truck loads of stuff I've already weeded from my home .....l've actually gone and retrieved a few things that I gave up to hastily :) I had to purchase them back ♡

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    2. Ha...yes I've had to "kick myself" for giving some things away that I really did need. Andrea

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  3. Oh Shelley, I'm sorry about your father. It is so hard to see your loved one suffer with alzheimer. It is such a hard disease. But the love that he feels from his wife and you will help me as he travels this new journey.

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  4. I totally agree with you about letting go and not letting our "stuff" own us. You have inspired me with this post. Sorry to hear about your parent's struggles. Getting older is often not fun, but you are so kind and patient to be with your parents and help them out when they need it. Hugs from AZ!

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  5. So sorry to hear about your father. His family loves him and I know you do, too. Have enjoyed seeing your parents in photos over the years. Keeping you in my thoughts.

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    1. Thank you Helen.......bless you my sweet friend♡

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  6. Hello ~ I've followed your other blog and now have found your new one. I too enjoy Praising Our Lord, dolls, and striving to live a simple life. I also follow you on Pinterest.

    My heart goes out to you and your family. My grandma had and father-in-law have dementia. Certain times can be difficult, but LOVE never fails.

    When we moved my FIL to a nursing home, we had the task of going thru his house full of 40+ years worth of 'stuff'. This made me want to weed my things at my home. It's strangely funny how we can attach emotions to 'things'. It can be really hard for me, but I'm slowing taking one room at a time.

    I don't comment on blogs much, but I felt like reaching out to my fellow Sister In Christ here in Texas.
    May God Bless You and Your Family.

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